Category: Self-care

Do You Believe in ‘The One?’

Releasing ourselves from the SCAM (the Sexual Chemistry Attraction Myth) means we open to the intricate, mysterious world that's available ...

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Owning Your Dark Side

Owning your darkness has tremendous benefits, including dissolving what separates you from others and increasing the sense of well-being you ...

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What’s Your Number One Rule for Life?

A good deal of mental health depends on a person learning how to alter their perceptions of reality--particularly those aspects ...

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Is Your Partner Stressed? These 5 Reactions Make it Worse

Different Sensitivity Levels to Stress In a relationship, people often have different sensitivity levels to stress, and find different situations ...

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The Emotional Calculus of Loving

If Your Partner Isn’t Ready It only takes one person to change a marriage for the better. If your partner ...

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A Modern Chastity Belt

The SCAM Reinforces Passivity The Sexual Chemistry Attraction Myth–the SCAM–encourages us to look outside of ourselves for situations and people who will lead ...

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The Price You Pay For Believing in Sexual Chemistry

There’s a Link Between Culture and Arousal What happens when you convince women to put their erotic awakening on hold? ...

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When I First Met the Parent Police

Healing ourselves often means taking on the "parent police" when we no longer prioritize the official story of our childhoods ...

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4 Steps to Surviving a Dark Night of the Soul

Here's a 4-step strategy to help you get through a darknots (dark night of the soul).

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The Sexual Chemistry Attraction Myth (SCAM)

Over a decade ago, when I first started working as a couples’ therapist, I was tormented by my own low ...

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